How do we replace the things that have been lost? What do we do when what we relied on goes away? How do we cope when the people we count on are no longer there? This is a core question which brings many people into therapy. It is really difficult to know how to replace what was lost, yet when we look inside ourselves we might find an answer. If we look at what aspects of ourselves were lost in the losing then we might find a way to carry on. It is precisely where we were attached to the old ways where healing can occur, and new ways of being can be born.